For me, color-matched moldings aren't so sweet. I do go for color-matched mirrors and door handles, though. I guess it's my inner JDM-bitch coming out.
For me, though, the black rub-strip around the middle of the car and the black on the bottom just really need to be there to break the car up visually a little bit, and to give it a longer, lower, wider look.
As for the wing, the bodykit, the tail lights, and even the color-matching, though, all I can say is this: It's YOUR car. Do what you want with it, not what anyone else tells you. However you decide to do it, you're the one who has to live with it, and some of the others will love it, and some will hate it. Screw 'em all; they're not the ones paying for it or doing the work on it.
I tend to leave mine mostly stock-looking for two reasons:
1. I *like* the looks of the car just as it came from Honda. I think their stylists nailed the design and the overall look, and far be it from me to "improve" upon their expertise.
2. Far too often, I've seen people put so much time and money into custom paint and bodykits, only to turn around and sell the car for LESS than they'd have gotten if they'd just left it looking stock.
So the way I see it, my liking the stock look and my being too lazy and stingy to mess with bodykits and custom paint just happen to coexist in perfect harmony, and give me a tailor-made excuse to leave the looks alone!
The few exterior mods that I do tend to like are things that CRXs got in other markets: color-matched mirrors and door handles, ZC and Si-R hoods, the sweet EDM rear wing, and so on. Oh, and 15" wheels and tires should have been standard equipment. I've even seen a couple CRXs with 16s on them that didn't look bad at all.
You might have noticed that I tend to go for a "sleeper" look - one that attracts the attentions of neither thieves NOR police.